I really didn’t expect this.
I recently read an advance copy of 21 Myths (Even Good) Girls Believe about Sex: Pursuing Love with Passion and Truth.
I thought I might find some good nuggets of truth to share. I expected to find things that were
- Biblical, and
I found that.
But I also found much that was
Yes, there were warnings, cautions, and facts. But all of it was laid on a canvas of understanding that was beautiful.
The author, Jennifer Strickland, understands that sex is much more than chemical reactions. God designed physical intimacy both to express and to strengthen a covenant relationship. Jennifer also understands that even with the brokenness that we bring to our marriages, there is something lovely and valuable at the core of who we are and at the core of what our marriages represent.
Here is some of the “beautiful”:
Love lifts another higher.
[Jesus] came as a servant, … loving in a manner that left the other person higher. Our need for a Savior mattered more to Him than how He felt. Our need came first to Jesus. (249)
We women are prone to complain about the men we love, that what they provide is not enough; we want more—as if [husbands] are God. But surely, to love is to know the difference between a man and his Maker; to turn the palm up and let go; to trust that all that falls into our hands is a gift. Love says thank you for the manna, resides in today, and believes His faithfulness will be there tomorrow. (243)
To love is to thank, to bow low, to lift another higher. To believe in your beloved. Wait. Put trust in God. Surrender. … And to be kind. (243)
Love is patient.
In marriage we must be patient. … There will be things the prince does not do well and things you do not know he needs. There will be messes and confusion and fights, … the “not enough” of who you are, the lack—and the more you fill the lack with lack, the darker your heart will become. … The lack has to be filled with Christ, always. (244-245)
Love is kind.
Words can blast the kindness right off the walls…. (246)
Pride … is the biggest destroyer of love. … Humility says, “I respect your needs and desires. I want to hear your heart so that I can bless you. I want to know you and respect you deeply. What you think and experience is more important to me than how I feel right now. How can I help you?” (249)
Love never fails.
No [spouse] is perfect, but love can be. (250)
The worst times have been the times when I have expected [my husband] to be God and trusted in man instead of Christ. (250)
The best times have been when I have raised my hands upward and let God be the artist painting the canvas of our future and rested in the Creator’s hands. (251)
We have a true Prince who is coming back for us one day, who loves us perfectly, without fail. The best thing we can do is lean in and listen for His still, small voice. Listen well. Love much. Fear nothing. Believe for more. (251)
Some of the Myths about Sex
The real battle in life is always to know and believe truth. As we recognize the lies that we are believing, we replace them with truth.
Here are several of the lies that are exposed in 21 Myths and the truth that replaces them:
Myth (or lie): If I’ve already been sexually active, it’s too late for me to be pure.
Truth: Forgiveness purifies you.
Myth: Abortion is the removal of unwanted tissue.
Truth: Abortion may cause trauma to the soul.
Myth: The body and soul are separate.
Truth: The body and soul are connected.
Myth: Being sexually active won’t hurt me.
Truth: Anything outside of God’s best for you hurts.
Myth: Casual sex is possible.
Truth: Sex is not casual; sex is binding.
Myth: Singleness is waiting for marriage.
Truth: Both singleness and marriage can be awesome.
These are important truths to know! I am thankful that our God shares with us the truth that sets us free, that heals us, and that enables us to enjoy Him and the lavish love that He has for us.
Barbour Publishing is providing a complimentary copy of 21 Myths. If you would like a chance to receive the book, simply leave a comment on this post by July 2. If your name is chosen in the random drawing, a copy will be mailed directly to you.
Blessings to you,